Flowers....appa

So almost 25 years ago ... appa says he was the happiest man ... to see a tiny lil girl ...placed firmly on his hands .... but of course ... it was only after a few years that he realized that this was going to be the only Varisu for him ... so began the quest of making sure daddy's lil girl was anything but a girl ... so i was always told to suck it up ... no matter what and as any good kid i have ... amma still tells me about the day i had my ear's pierced ... the whole ceremony with mottai and all ..sitting on mama's madi ... i believe i started to cry when appa said ... "vallikkum paravaillai poruthuka alluva kudathu" and as any brave lil trooper i held it all in ... until after when amma said ... its ok chellam cry now ... when i burst out in tears ... so i take my dad's words quite literally into heart I still do ... I have been told to be TOUGH 

But the thing is ... appa is like no other ... i have been repeatedly told by many around me ... all my cousins think he is the "coolest dad" out there and why ... cos he listens to his Kid... which is completely true .... he totally does .... ... takes me back to those old days ...

 i remember in my teen years he used to beg me to be a little more like a girl ... asked me to wear skirts or salwars or anything that remotely resembled an women's attire ... of course i never did ... the only time i would wear anything feminine was for the 3 hours every week when i went to dance class ... that was the other extreme ... i would be in a saree .... i never wore any jewellry more than than the gold loops , getting to wear anything womenly was SOOOO hard ... amma had to literally threaten physical violence before i did ... but the one thing throughout that i did was to keep flowers on my hair ... i had long hair and i would love to keep flowers .... this doesn't mean to school or anything but just in and around the house and during weekends when we went out .... so whenever i asked ... i appa would buy me tons and tons of flower ... so when we moved to toronto ... the one thing i miss here is the flowers ... they werent available ... until recently when we heard they do get shipped in from india ... the cost a whopping 10 dollars a meter ...... i was super excited but of course thought it was super expensive ... but daddy dearest doesn't think so ... he asks me every friday (cos that's the only day they are available) if i want some ... i say No ... i am going to wait for a special occasion to buy them .... i couldn't resist writing this ... cos this is the same guy that thinks 10 million times before buying a cup of coffee , or a sandwich ...cos all thats a waste of money !!!!!!!  But spending 10 dollars on flowers is completely justified i suppose ... esp when that lil girl of urs asks for it ...... This example has been true for other girlie things too .... for example ... the first time i asked for anklets, or the koda gymmkie .... oh my the world at my finger tips .... always feels nice to be taken care once in a while no matter how tough you may think you are ...